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How to pitch an article idea to a magazine: Email examples included

How to pitch an article idea to a magazine: Email examples included

I’ve been writing mental health features for magazines and websites for a few years now in addition to blogging and getting my memoir published. Humblebrag, yes, but I have plenty of experience. Don’t let that put you off, because (shhhh) I have no formal journalism qualifications!

In this article, I’ll take you through the steps to pitching your story to editors. I’ll provide real examples of emails that I’ve actually sent out to editors, ones which have been successfully commissioned and published online or in a magazine.

Once you’ve finished reading, you’ll be armed with everyone you need to outline and send your perfect pitch email.

Who to pitch to if you’ve got no experience

Here’s a list of publications (put together by Anna Codrea-Rado as part of her email The Professional Freelancer) who have actively stated that they will accept pitches from, publish and PAY new writers:

Side note: Whilst you’re coming up with ideas and sending out emails, I would definitely recommend publishing regular posts on your own blog (or an external site like Medium) to create a portfolio of sorts.

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Read the publication

It sounds obvious but you really need to understand the publication you’re pitching to before you make contact. For instance, the Daily Mail has a completely different readership to somewhere like Vice, and this will dictate the way you pitch a mental health story.

Read the content on the website and in particular, look at the stories they choose to put on the front page. These are the ones that appeal most to their readership.

Are they celebrity-focused?

Research-based?

Do they link to scientific studies?

Are they opinionated or does the writer sit on the fence?

Look at the headlines they use and that will give you a laser-focused example of what kind of stories they are likely to publish.

Many publications actually offer tips and tricks on how to submit, you can generally find these under ‘submission guidelines’. If you find submission guidelines, the information provided may confict with what I’ve written here. Obviously, always go with the house style when pitching! Here are some examples of submission guidelines which are freely available online.

How To Pitch To HuffPost Personal

How To Pitch To Stylist.co.uk

How To Pitch An Article To Guardian Opinion

Side note: Typing ‘submission guidelines’ or ‘contributor guidelines’ into Google is also a great way to find lesser known websites who are open to contributors. I also regularly search for the phrase ‘writers wanted’ on Twitter and it sometimes turns up a few gems.

Find the editor to contact

Once you’ve decided on a publication to pitch to, you need to find the right person to contact. A word of warning though, generic emails such as submissions@coolmagazine.com generally go unanswered. Every good journalist knows that if you want to place a story, you’ve got to talk to the editor directly via their own email address.

Remember that there are multiple editors for different sections (e.g women, lifestyle, business, health) so do your research and make sure you’re contacting the right person. Do NOT copy and paste the same email to multiple editors.

Figure out the correct person to speak to first. Some publications have a page with names of all their current section editors – like this contact us page on iNews  – but this isn’t the norm. You’ll have to do a bit of digging to find the exact editor and their correct email address.

How to find an editor’s email address

You can normally use LinkedIn to find editors, as people tend to keep their job titles up to date on there. You can then request to connect with them and include a personalised message, introducing yourself as a writer and ask if they are accepting pitches. BE FRIENDLY.

My next port of call is normally Twitter. Type in the name of the publication you’re interested in and filter the search results by people and you’ll find users who have mentioned the mag in their bio. This will help you find the editors, many of whom make their email address clearly visible in their bio. Jackpot! If not, you can always send a polite DM asking if they’re accepting pitches and who is best to contact.

This book also a great resource for contacts (affiliate link) although goes out of date yearly.

I would strongly advise against asking other journalists to hand over contact details for editors unless you know them really well. I value my relationships with editors and don’t always feel comfortable handing out their contact details to people I’ve never met. It just feels icky.

You should also consider signing up to these weekly newsletters as the send a round-up of editors who are actively seeking pitches, along with their email addresses. Even if you don’t pitch them straight away it is worth adding the email address to a spreadsheet for future reference.

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How to pitch a good story

This is going to sound harsh, but most stories are not newsworthy. Not at first glance, anyway.

Look at my ‘story’ for instance. I had a mental breakdown due to work-related stress. From my perspective it was life-altering. It destroyed me, I lost my career, my self-confidence and it took years to repair the damage done to my psyche and my circumstances. But to the general public flicking through a magazine or scrolling through their newsfeed? It’s not news.

The key to writing a good story is pegging it on one aspect of your personal experience, that’s how I’ve managed to write so many stories about mental illness from my own personal experience. I’ve never written an article that just retells my experience from start to finish, it always told through a different lens.

For example, in this piece for Grok Nation I wrote about self-care and why I used to find it difficult to justify spending money on myself when my depression was at its worst. I explain why and talk about my recovery and how my self-worth as improved over time. I’m still talking about my experience but I have honed in on one specific aspect (the cost of self-care) of it to comment on a wider subject (self-worth) which others can relate to.

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Another example this article by Molly Longman on Refinery29 titled “If you think city people are rude, you’re right. But it’s not their fault”

Molly uses rudeness as a way in to talk about the mental pressure that city dwellers are under. She uses her own experience of moving from a small town to New York City to describe the behaviours that many people, especially women, display as a means of self-preservation.

A different example is an article I wrote for Happiful Magazine called “How to set realistic career goals after time off work” Although I don’t refer to my own personal experience of being off work with a mental illness, I knew that this was a pain point for many people returning to work after sickness.

Come up with a good headline

When you write your pitch, imagine that your editor is viewing your email like a reader. Most editors have an excellent idea of how their core reader thinks and so they will automatically read your pitch from that angle.

Adding a snappy, thought-provoking headline will give an idea of how your story will fit into their publication. Your headline doesn’t need to explain what your entire article is about, it just needs to intriguing enough to make them want to read more.

One of my most popular blogs on Metro was titled: “What I’ve learned from taking anti-depressants for six years” whilst another on Underpinned was “A year ago I turned to freelancing to save my mental health: Here’s what happened”.

Write the perfect pitch email

Creating the perfect pitch email is something that I’m still working on, several years after my first byline. Some editors will commission on a title and a few brief lines whereas others like a few paragraphs which outline in detail how the piece will flow. I say the safest approach is to keep your email as short as possible whilst answering these three questions:

1. What’s the angle?

This goes back to what I was saying before about telling the story from a particular point of view such as a small town girl moving to the big city

2. Why should you write it?

This might be because you have access to an amazing source, a seasoned expert or because you have the first-hand experience. Basically, why can’t the editor just pay a staff writer to tell the same story? Also, mention your previous work here and any other publications you have written for.

3. Why now?

Editors want timely content that readers are eager to read. If your story could be published at any time then its more likely to be bumped for something that ties with a recent celebrity death or a royal baby announcement

Example one

Dear XXX
I’m writing to pitch a story to tie in with Mental Health Awareness Week which starts on May 13th, called:

How to prepare for a mental health day as a freelancer

Many freelancers will laugh at this headline. “Sick days? We can’t afford sick days!” But therein lies the problem. I moved into self-employment because I wanted flexible working hours to accommodate my depression and anxiety, but it can be easy to feel the pressure to work even when I’m unwell.

In this piece, I’ll explain how I’ve learned to prepare for sick days. I do this by being strict with how I arrange my deadlines, always leaving breathing room for my health to dip, maximising time when I AM well, saving money to afford time off, varying my workload so that some tasks can be done without too much creative thinking, automate my processes as much as possible, and keep in contact with clients about my mental health to extend deadlines if possible.

I’ll also talk a bit about preventative tools which help me maintain good mental health such as leaving my house every day, running and prioritising social time with other freelancers to help me feel less isolated.

I know that mental health days are a no-no for most freelancers, but I want to explain that with a little forethought, they’re not only achievable but beneficial.

Let me know your thoughts,
Fiona

Why it works

I highlight from the get-go that this is pegged to an awareness week and state the date. This lets the editor know that this pitch is timely: it needs to be written now. I’ve made it clear that although the piece is from my point of view, it will be aimed at providing actionable tips that will help the reader.

Example two

Hi XXX

I’m writing to pitch a personal finance story about how I manage my income whilst coping with a mental illness. I went freelance last year because my career in catering/retail was putting a strain on my mental health causing me to relapse every few months. The world of freelance comes with a degree of flexibility but also with a whole new set of money worries. Here is a bit of background:

  • Freelance writer, age 31, living in Birmingham UK
  • Earn roughly £12k a year although this changes month to month
  • I had a mental breakdown a few years ago and still manage the symptoms, meaning self-employment seemed to be the best choice for flexible hours and time off (ha!)
  • Health-related challenges: affording prescriptions, therapy and things which keep me mentally stable like healthy food and budget gym membership
  • Freelance challenges: affording basics like an accountant, printer ink, web hosting and embarrassing things like paying for a client’s coffee at a meeting

I also got a book deal this year so I’ve been writing that on the side so my first year as self-employed has been pretty challenging. Do you think this is something that would resonate with your readers? I wrote a similar piece for the Money Diaries section of Refinery29 which you can read here

Let me know your thoughts
Thanks
Fiona

Why it works

I approached the business section of a newspaper to share how freelancing has affected my mental health. It was for a specific money series they run regularly so I added bullet points based on previously published articles (proof that I’d done my research) and added a unique angle of having a recent book deal (that’s why it needs to be written now). I also back up my credentials by linking to a similar article I have published a few months prior.

 

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Don’t forget

Your email subject line. It’s best to make it clear that your pitching a story, but make sure that the editor doesn’t mistake you for a PR person trying to plug a product or service. I do this by using the phrase WRITER PITCHING at the top of the subject line. Yes, I use all caps. I follow this with the proposed headline, so it would look like this: WRITER PITCHING – How a mental breakdown shaped my career in journalism

I know some journalist just use the word PITCH, but I’ve had specific feedback from editors who say they prefer my wording. Take your pick.

Spell check

I run all my pitches through Grammarly which is a free piece of software that spots more errors that standard spell check. You can also install it on your computer so that it automatically highlights spelling and grammatical errors when you’re writing emails or filling out forms. It’s a real game-changer.

When to pitch

I never pitch on a Monday because chances are, editors are too swamped with emails and meetings to consider pitches. I find early morning pitches do well on Tuesdays-Thursdays. I also never pitch on a Friday because no one wants to start work on new projects on a Friday. By the time Monday comes, your pitch will be lost in their inbox yet again.

I use an email service called Boomerang which allows me to schedule emails ahead of time. So I can spend all Monday researching and constructing perfect pitches and arrange for them to be sent out early bells Tuesday morning, like 6am, whilst I’m fast asleep.

If all runs to plan, I’ll roll out of bed at 10am with a commission offer in my inbox!

How long to wait to chase up a pitch email

One of the other reasons I use Boomerang is to prompt me when to chase up unanswered emails. Bear in mind that some editors can receive hundreds of emails per day, and it’s totally acceptable for them to ignore your pitch in favour of other things. They do not owe you a reply. You contacted them, not the other way around.

With that said, it is reasonable to send a follow-up email to your initial pitch to find out if they’ve had a chance to consider it. I use Boomerang to send me a reminder one week after I’ve sent the initial pitch if they haven’t responded. I forward on the pitch again, with a new email along these lines:

Hi XXX,

I just wanted to follow up on my previous email and see if you had considered my pitch?

Thanks,
Fiona

If I still get no response within a week I assume that it’s a resounding no and stop chasing up this particular pitch, and maybe try to place it elsewhere. However, this doesn’t mean that I’ll never email this editor again. It just means that they didn’t want this exact story.

In the past, I’ve emailed the same editor with ten separate ideas over the space of several months before getting one of them accepted. I honestly think the secret to the perfect pitch is a combination of practice, honing your ideas, contacting the right people, accepting rejection and not giving up.

When you get the green light

Hooray! You’ve got the go ahead! Remember to ask what the fee and deadline are before you submit any copy. You may find it difficult to talk money at this point but honestly, it’s normal and editors should be expecting it. Some dodgy publications will try to avoid talking money at all, then once you’ve sent over the copy they’ll say they assumed you know that it was unpaid. Gross but more common than you might think.

Do not make this mistake! If they send over contract look out for kill fees (a percentage of the fee which will be paid to you if they decided not to run the story) and other clauses such as your responsibility for sharing the piece on your own social media platforms. They may also have the right to syndicate your work and sell it on to other publications.

Now what?

To learn more about freelancing, buy my book Out of Office: Ditch the 9-5 and Be Your Own Boss

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My favourite UK mental health speakers

My favourite UK mental health speakers

I know that there are probably another twenty rock solid mental health speakers who could be on this list, but I’ve only included people whom I’ve actually listened to at events near me. People who I’ve personally witnessed, as I wanted to make sure that everyone was top notch… which they are by the way!

Feel free to leave a comment below with some further recommendations in your area of course, as I’m always on the lookout for mental health advocates to connect with. I know that a lot of workplaces in particular want to chat about wellbeing, so definitely leave some links in the comments for me to check out!

 

Jo Love

 

Since I met Jo a few years ago I’ve felt so lucky to have her in my life. I watched her speak at a private event for influencers who talk about mental health and then saw her host a birthday party for her business where she talked on a panel of women who all really know their stuff. She’s one of the most humble and intelligent mental health speakers on Instagram, and always makes time to talk directly to everyone she meets at events. She talks mostly about PND and depression but is always open to talking about the benefits of therapy too. She even did me the honour of hosting my book launch event which was the ultimate compliment.

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Bryony Gordon

 

I’ve seen Bryony talk once and I find her a pleasure to listen to. Even with the jaw-dropping success, she’s had with her many, many books she still manages to be completely honest when she’s not feeling 100%. I think that’s all you can ask for in a mental health speaker. I find raw, candid speakers the most relatable people to watch.

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Jessica Jones

 

Also known as The Fat Funny One, you can always rely on Jess to maintain a healthy balance of good humour and self-reflection when she speaks about mental health and wellbeing. I feel like I know her so well from her Instagram stories, and I am constantly inspired by her quest to make women of all shapes and sizes feel body confident. She regularly runs events centred around self-love and confidence.

 

Mary Meadows

 

Life coach, NLP practitioner and writer – this woman is everything rolled into one! I used to be sceptical of the term ‘life coach’ until I saw Mary (badass) Meadows speak. She’s one of those people who can instantly spot your vulnerabilities and use them to make you stronger. One of those people who can look deep into your soul and figure you out in a second. Her tagline ‘everyone needs a Mary Meadows’ sums it up perfectly!

 

 

Chris Young

 

I interviewed Chris in the past for an article I wrote about dissociative identity disorder, something which he explores in more detail in his book Walk A Mile: Tales of a Wandering Loon. I asked him to speak at a mental health event I was hosting and found myself chuckling away for almost forty minutes as he recalled the highs and lows of walking around Scotland talking to strangers about mental illness. A great, inspiring character to liven up any event.

 

Jana Dowling

 

Creator of My Arkeo, a mental health fitness tracker app, Jana knows first-hand what its like to live with mental illness. She brought herself back from the brink of suicide by taking a methodical approach to her recovery in the form of mood tracking. That’s what formed the basis of the app, and she now speaks openly to others and trains them how to find tools to manage their own mental health with a systematic approach that really works. Jana is also a seasoned stand-up comedian so you can always rely on her to brighten up the room with a few jokes.

 

Kirsty Hulse

 

Confidence coach, author and business owner Kirsty has experienced burnout whilst running a company from her bedroom. She learned the hard way that success doesn’t always need to be linked to your bank balance, and has now made it her mission to help other people find confidence at work. Her book The Future is Freelance is an entertaining look at the realities of working for yourself

 

 

Fiona Thomas

 

Oh come on, you know I couldn’t make this list without sneaking my own name in at the end! My speciality is speaking about the power of social media for people who feel isolated by mental illness. I truly believe that it can be a force for good, can help build communities, be a tool for those with social anxiety and ultimately act as a lifeline for those who are struggling to connect in real life. My book Depression in a Digital Age is my own personal journey, one which I know is mirrored by young people across the globe.

 

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How to create a freelance routine when you have depression

How to create a freelance routine when you have depression

I absolutely love being a freelancer, but routine has never been one of my strengths.

I feel really proud when I get to introduce myself as a full-time writer, and I actively encourage others to pursue their dream of being self-employed because I think it can be incredibly fulfilling in a number of ways.

Truthfully though, I felt backed into a corner to become freelancer because of my mental health.

I’d been juggling depression, anxiety, waitressing and blogging for a few years and eventually it all became too much. I realised that I would have to give something up so I took a leap of faith and jumped into freelancing.

I still don’t make enough money as I would like, but I have something much more valuable to me and thats flexibility.

With that in mind-  and over a year’s worth of trial and error in the bank – I thought I would share my tips on how to create a freelancer schedule that works if you have depression.

Make shorter to-do lists

Hands up if your daily to-do list spans several pages?

Take it back to basics and only write 3 things on your to-do list every day. It means you will never get overwhelmed and you’ll almost certainly get them all done, leaving time at the end of the day to pick up extra tasks

Figure out your pattern

Before you can create a schedule you need to figure out what times of day, week, month are most productive for you. Admittedly, this will take you a while to pin down. I advise that you start by tracking your moods over the course of a month and spot patterns. When are you tired? When are you bursting with ideas? When are you really driven to get more done? When are you falling asleep at your desk?

Here’s what my day tends to look like:

  • 9-11am: I am not very productive in the morning so I never do creative work as soon as I get up. Instead, I do emails and chase invoices.
  • 11am-3pm: I’m on a roll in the middle of the day so I normally spend that time doing deep work like writing or coming up with ideas. In the afternoon I’m no good at proof-reading so I always leave that to the next day
  • 3-5pm: Working on fun stuff like eBooks, graphics, Instagram or researching new topics. I also schedule meetings and interviews in the afternoon otherwise they tend to eat into the time of the day where I’m most productive and it ruins my output for the day.

As you can see, its not really a steadfast schedule but it works for me. The most important aspect for me is flexibility. It’s loose and open to interpretation depending on how I feel that day.

Figure out what makes the most money

This might sound like a no-brainer, but take a look at your finances and figure out what made you the most money in the last few months. Now make that a priority. For me, it’s magazine writing. This means that when I sit down to come up with feature ideas I have a few publications in mind that I want to work with which makes the process more efficient.

Identify what drains you

For me, it’s public speaking and travelling. Luckily I don’t need to do to much of this, but every now and again I get an opportunity to go to a great event in London or to promote my book in front of a group of people.

Even though the experience has an impact on my mental health, I still want to pursue these things because they are good for networking, sales or they just sound like good fun. Nowadays I make sure that when I say yes to these things I space them out on my calendar.

For example, I try to only travel to London once a month and always schedule in a day at home straight after to allow myself to hide under the duvet for a few hours and work from bed if needs be. I also try to only to one speaking engagement or podcast recording per week, as it normally means blocking off a whole day.

Plan for down days

If you wake up feeling really mentally unwell, then the chances are you’re not going to be very productive that day. That’s OK, and something you need to learn to plan for and forgive yourself for.

How I get around this is by using those days to do things that don’t require much brain power. Normally, creative work is out the window but that doesn’t mean I can’t use the time to do administrative tasks like chasing late payments or sending out emails to prospective clients. Nothing too taxing, literally just an email saying hello and requesting a meeting.

This might not fall into the concept of ‘creating a schedule’ but I truly believe that part of managing your time as a freelancer with depression involves anticipating a dip in your mood. Remember, moods are unpredictable but working from home means that you can deal with it!

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10 things I wish I’d known about imposter syndrome

10 things I wish I’d known about imposter syndrome

At some point, in every job I’ve ever had, I’ve felt like an impostor. I’ve felt unqualified to make coffee, not good enough to manage a team and certainly not smart enough to write a book.

But you know what? I’ve done all of those things, and while I can’t guarantee my cappuccinos were ever frothy enough to win any prizes, I was never truly an impostor.

It was all in my head.

Here’s what I wish I’d know…..

1. It’s real and totally normal

It’s a psychological pattern in which you doubt your accomplishments and have a persistent, internalised fear of being exposed.

2. It gets worse the higher up the ladder you climb

It always amazes me to think that even billionaires feel like impostors sometimes. Every Oscar-winner has probably felt like a fraudster as they make their acceptance speech, having the most exciting moment of their career live on stage in front of the world.

Part of impostor syndrome is that it’s actually rife amongst seasoned experts. Scientists and writers at the top of their game are all likely to experience it even though the world sees them as extremely knowledgable in their field.

3. It’s not just women who get it

While early research assumed impostor syndrome was most common amongst high-achieving women, it’s now widely acknowledged as an issue experienced by both sexes. Tom Hanks gets it!

4. It can contribute to low self-esteem

I didn’t realise that every small piece of criticism I got was feeding into my impostor syndrome. I could get hundreds of positive comments from my boss and then one small negative thing would stick with me for weeks or even months, grinding down my self esteem. This made me feel like a failure and like I was a really bad employee and just a rubbish person in general.

5. It makes you work hard

The more I succumbed to impostor syndrome the more intent I became on proving myself wrong. I was so scared that I was going to be disciplined or fired that I worked really hard to prove to the world that I was a good manager.

6. Sometimes a little too hard

Yes, impostor syndrome definitely contributed to me busting a gut and saying yes to way more things than I could actually handle. I thought that saying ‘no’ was proof that I was unqualified so I bit off more than I could chew which led to burnout and ultimately a mental breakdown.

7. Sometimes it’s a sign you need to move on

I’ve learned recently is that it’s OK to quit. If you constantly feel like a failure and you think that it’s related to your job then maybe it’s not right for you. There is a time in life for getting out of your comfort zone but there’s also a time when you need to be right there in it, just coasting along and enjoying other things.

8. But most of the time it’s a sign that you’re embarking on something exciting

Feeling a mix of fear and excitement at work is quite special. It can propel you forwards. I’ve recently started doing a lot of speaking engagements and I’m choosing to look at it as a learning opportunity. I may not be qualified but the more I do it the better I’ll get at it!

9. There are simple ways to counteract it

I’ve learned two really simple and effective ways to cope with impostor syndrome, so much so that I managed to make a huge career change from working in catering to becoming a freelance writer and published author in just a few years without any relevant qualifications. I talk about it in my book Out of Office; Ditch the 9-5 and Be Your Own Boss.

10. Sometimes it’s helpful

Don’t believe me? Cosmopolitan editor Farrah Storr puts is like this:

“Those that ask questions are those that get ahead,” says Farrah. Impostor syndrome is nothing but a “control valve that alerts us when we are in our discomfort zone”. And what happens in that dreaded zone? Personal growth. Accelerated growth to be exact.

Have you experienced impostor syndrome? How did you deal with it?

Being offline, writing a book and eating ice cream for breakfast

Being offline, writing a book and eating ice cream for breakfast

It seems fitting that the last 12 months of my life have been bookended by two amazing – yet entirely different – holidays.

In the summer of 2017, I watched as everyone else in my workplace jetted off to various locations from Tenerife to South Wales, only to throw my hands up in the air towards the end of September and scream ‘I NEED A HOLIDAY’ in an entirely unnecessary and dramatic fashion.

I called my mum and within a few days, we had booked to go to Menorca for the last week in October, getting a bargain deal and returning home on the last flight before the island quite literally shut up shop for the year. As I write this blog post, its almost a full year later and I’m on an airplane returning from a very different trip entirely.

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We have have spent the last fortnight kangaroo spotting and beach-hopping in Melbourne, Australia, where we visited my brother and his wife. See my comedic grin above where I was snapped chilling out with my little brother in Oz.

We’ve never been keen travellers, so having two sunny trips abroad in the space of a year has felt like a real treat, but I think it’s also fair to say that I’ve felt in dire need of the true relaxation that comes with getting away from UK life, the pressures of work and the painful reliance on social media and technology on a minute by minute basis.

If you’ve read my blog before you’ll be well aware that I’ve struggled with my mental health. It’s not something that I’m ashamed of anymore, in fact, I kind of make a living out of talking about it.

Whilst I was lying poolside in Menorca last October I realised that after writing hundreds of blog posts about depression and anxiety, I was ready to embark on something new, something more exciting.

I jotted down the title Depression In A Digital Age and thought that it would make a really cool book title.

Just a few weeks before I packed my suitcase to travel down under at the end of last month, I submitted the final draft of my memoir called ‘Depression In A Digital Age’ and I now patiently await its release at the end of November.

Can a holiday really change your life?

Had you asked me that in June of 2012 I would have laughed and cried simultaneously, as I slid into my sixth week of sick leave from work with a fresh diagnosis of stress, depression and anxiety.

I had booked a week in Spain a few months beforehand and the thought of going away was filling me with dread.

As I struggled to keep my head above water and come to terms with the black cloud which followed be around on a daily basis, my mum chirped positively ‘maybe a holiday will do you good!’

In this particular case, a week in the sun was nowhere near close to the kind of self-care and medical attention needed to bring me back to life, but I can see now that in less pressing circumstances how a holiday can do wonders for the soul.

Just look at how happy I was to get my picture taken with this image of a carrot when I was in Oz! How much more proof could you need?

I’ve spent a lot of my recovery attached to my phone. As a textbook introvert, I feel at home online where I can carefully work out my anxious, complicated thoughts in a WhatsApp message or one of these lengthy blog posts.

I’ve unexpectedly connected with some of the best people in the world, making life friends who are not relegated to my DMs but have become coffee buddies, workmates and people who I call when I need to talk.

But with the online world comes the addiction and self-gratification of posting selfies (nothing wrong with that) and checking how many likes said selfie has received every 5 minutes until it reaches a number that feels good.

In the same way that my work inbox gets to an unmanageable stage a few times throughout the year, the constant ringing of smartphone notifications becomes stimulation overload to the point where I need to go cold turkey.

One of the best bits about going on holiday is selecting the books I want to read, and whilst in Australia, I read a collection of essays by Laura Jane Williams called Ice Cream For Breakfast.

It’s been on my reading list for months and I devoured it whilst we drove in between vineyards in the Yarra Valley in Australia just a few days ago.

Sometimes you need to actively seek out those magic moments. Book the holiday, schedule in the downtime and make a conscious decision to turn off your data (actual heaven) and be in the moment.

In between tasting the finest pinot noir in the world, spending two weeks with my favourite people and reflecting on the best year of my career so far I even accidentally managed to fulfill one of Laura’s best pieces of advice by literally having ice cream for breakfast.

It doesn’t get much better than that, does it?

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Flexible working: An unrealistic goal for self-employed people with mental illness?

Flexible working: An unrealistic goal for self-employed people with mental illness?

Flexible working is a BIG old buzzword in 2018.

It’s what mothers have been denied for years, and only now in the digital age are businesses and entrepreneurs starting to pull together some sort of plan to help workers find hours to fit around their needs.

A new survey says that of 1,800 UK professionals (78% of whom said “their current or most recent employer offered flexible working”) found that 30% of flexible workers felt they were regarded as less important, and 25% said they were given fewer opportunities than colleagues who worked conventional hours. A quarter also believed they had missed out on promotion.

Emma Gannon has been the champion of flexible working in the last few years, and with the release of her most recent book The Multi-Hyphen Method she has firmly rooted the notion of freelancing in thousands of young adults across the world. I too jumped on Emma’s wonderfully positive take on all the great things that are possible from being self-employed, and went fully freelance in January 2018.

This was half out of a passion for the job and half out of necessity for my mental health. Every job I’ve had as an adult has been hard to maintain because of my inability to cope with stress. I don’t mean coming home to have a moan every night because my boss didn’t give me a promotion. I mean leaning on booze, dabbling in self-harm, hiding in toilets and verbally abusing staff members as a result of my depression and anxiety.

I knew that working in catering was unsustainable so I built up my experience as a writer and social media manager and jumped into the world of flexible working, hoping that it would hold the answers to my prayers. It’s been a pretty stressful transition

Don’t get me wrong. I would much rather be sitting at home typing on a laptop than waiting tables and scrubbing a dishwasher every day. One job isn’t better than another, but having to be in front of customers pretending to be happy-go-lucky just wasn’t possible for me on a consistent basis.

So at home, sat in my pyjamas sporting six day old hair (yes, six) I can be as sad as I like and still be productive. Or so I thought.

The last few months have been testing. I’ve had the flexibility to work the hours that suit my mood. Sometimes this has meant a long lie until 10am and then a really productive afternoon. In the beginning, I was able to take self-care days as required, where I would turn off my phone and get outside in some fresh air. Or  just lay on the sofa and watch a movie. But that idea of flexibility has all but vanished.

Now, I sleep in late because I’ve more than likely worked until midnight the night before. Self-care days have turned into self-care ‘moments’, like wearing a face mask whilst I chase up late invoices or doing my dishes in between proof-reading. I’m constantly dangling a carrot in front of each long stretch of work, and basic necessities such as showering are now becoming an afternoon reward as opposed to a morning routine.

I have friends who are in the same boat. My friend Fay has a chronic illness and works from home because it’s the only legitimate way she can earn a living whilst managing her ever-changing symptoms.

Like me, she thought it seemed like a great idea from the outset, but when it comes to actually taking the time off she needs (the reason she chose to work from home in the first place) it feels logistical impossible to do. There is no sick pay. Zero. There’s also a lot less compassion from clients when you tell them that you’re going to miss a deadline because you’re mentally unwell.

And that’s if you even have the balls to tell them that you’ve got a mental illness. It’s hard enough to tell one boss, but to announce is to 5, 6 or maybe more individual people who are all paying your wages with no obligation to keep using your services? Nah mate, I’ll keep it under my hat for now.

It’s not just creative freelancers who are feeling the stress. A recent article on Techcrunch.com reported that Deliveroo’s flexible working was comparable to 20th-century dockyards;

where workers would gather around the dock gate desperately hoping that they would be offered work, and where only some workers were fortunate to be offered fairly regular shifts, while others were offered no work at all.

But on page three of her book, Emma Gannon enforces that this is exactly the kind of mentality flexible working is supposed to stamp out. She writes;

Being a multi-hyphenate is about choosing and strategising a plan of attack and having the freedom to take on multiple projects, not being backed into a corner. This is about choosing a lifestyle. This is about taking some power back into our own hands.

Well, that sounds amazing, and although I do feel a lot more in control of my day to day life I can’t help but feeling that I AM still backed into a corner. I’m going through a stage where I’m doing a hell of a lot of work for not much money. I didn’t publicise this when it was published, but you can read my anonymous Money Diary on Refinery 29 to find out the details.

The truth is that I work more now that I ever did when I was a store manager or running the catering facility in a busy tourist attraction. I am working MORE and earning just about enough to get by.

Is this the lifestyle I was looking for? Not quite.